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When Your Spouse/Partner Isn’t So Supportive

by | Mar 21, 2023 | Heather Binns, Lifestyle, Love, Renov8 Fitness, Self Care, Wellness

We all need supporters on our health & fitness journey. And while some are lucky enough to have a supportive partner at home, that’s a fantasy for others.

So, what do you do when your spouse/partner doesn’t encourage your efforts to live a healthier life and develop better habits around eating and exercise?

Sometimes it’s even worse than indifference, with a partner seeming to work against you. And, if you’re in that situation or fear you might be, please know that I am so sorry. No one should have to do this alone.

The good news is, you’re NOT alone! I’m here to help you, and so are countless other people. Some you know already, and some you haven’t met yet. But believe me, the world is rooting for you :)

Here are my tips to stay motivated even when your partner is letting you down (I’m using male pronouns here just for simplicity!).

1. Be clear about what you’re doing, why it’s important to you, and how he can help. Do you need an occasional word of encouragement? Do you need for the kids to be picked up on Tuesdays and Thursdays? He might think you need a workout partner, vegan chef, and 24/7 cheerleader.

2. If you can’t get even basic support, then you’re better off accepting him for who and where he is. Complaining and cajoling won’t help. Neither will playing the victim, so don’t.

3. You do you. It’s okay to have your own priorities and pursue them, even if someone else feels inconvenienced or neglected. Remember, you can’t control how someone else feels (it might help to share what’s coming up so he can know what to expect.).

4. Seek support and encouragement elsewhere. Find a workout buddy or a colleague who’s willing to go for walks together during your lunch hour. Join semi-private or small group coaching, where everyone looks out for each other. Hire a trainer if you can.

5. Write in your journal. It could be a mix of basic reporting on your progress and emotions, or just one facet of it all. That’s YOUR record. It can also be YOUR resource.

6. Set boundaries and stick to them. If he brings you a bowl of ice cream in the evening, politely remind him you’re not doing that right now (and let him dive into his own dessert without any guilt).

7. Include him in something new that you can share together. Sometimes a partner might feel left out when we take on new habits or focus on things that don’t interest them.

8. Finally, remember that you’re seeking support, not permission.

Your journey is your own. And that can be SO EMPOWERING! Go for it!

I’m here to support you, now and always.


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