A belief is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists.
And when we commonly hear people talking about beliefs, they are thoughts repeated, right? We’ve all heard that before or read it on a coffee mug or Pinterest board.
And it’s true. If you think you’re a smart, hard-working, good person – and then repeat that thought over and over – then you’re going to face the world with a positive attitude about yourself.
Unfortunately, it also works the other way around, as so many of us know.
Have you ever thought any of these about yourself? And then repeated them a million times until the thoughts became your beliefs?
- I’ll always be too fat.
- I’ll never make it.
- Nothing ever goes my way.
These are highly common self-limiting beliefs. We all have some. Maybe they came from a childhood trauma or insult – and the wound caused us to repeat a thought so many times that now it seems like undisputed truth.
But it’s not. It’s just what you’ve been telling yourself about yourself.
When I was in high school, I noticed that my butt stuck out way more than the other girls. So, I used to hide it whenever possible by wearing longer shirts. Then, when I went to college, I found out that my “big butt” was attractive, helped me run well, and something I should not be embarrassed about.
The good news about all of this…
You can change your self-beliefs by changing what you say about yourself, and then believing it!
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. There will always be someone who seems to have more…or be more…or do more. You just be YOU.
2. Notice what thoughts about yourself pop into your head. What are the circumstances? Are there any common threads?
3. Dig into your past to think about where they might’ve come from? I know someone who always said she was a terrible runner, until she remembered that her sixth-grade PE teacher accused her of cheating in a race. Since then, she runs like the wind.
4. Next, try to turn around a negative thought. When you tell yourself that you’re not successful in life, think of something that you’ve done well – a new job, a relationship, a hobby, good relationships with your family, etc.
5. Then say it out loud and repeat the thought over and over: “I’m smart and successful and often achieve my goals.”
This might take a long time to bring lasting change. But it’s a form of self-care to grant yourself the empathy and support you would a friend.
I’m here to help you establish new rhythms, shift your behaviors (to build new habits), and to turn those negative self-beliefs into empowering tales of your fabulousness. Let’s do it – together!
Comment below and let’s chat. I’d love to learn how I can help you shatter your self-imposed glass ceilings!